Find your authentic self by understanding your Personality type

So you have decided to take a break from drinking, for a month, two, six or longer. What do you do with all the free time you now have?

Yes, there is a whole bunch of free time that opens out in front of you. Time that you would have spent either buying drinks/bottles of wine/feeling a bit hungover and sleepy or just sitting around drinking.

This is a great opportunity to start doing some of those things you have have been curious about but have not got around to actually doing.

There is nothing like a bit of self discovery!

One of the tools I use with clients is helping them get a deeper understanding of “self” by working through their personality type. Myers Briggs is the platform I use but I dont just send people to an on line questionnaire. Instead its a process of learning and discussion. We work thru the different aspects of the dynamics including Extraversion, Introversion, Sensing, Intuition, Thinking, Feeling, Judging and Perceiving. These sessions contain much learning and many aha  moments . Its often astonishing to see and understand how our essential personality can be sidelined by the affects of alcohol.

Freeing oneself from the trance of alcohol gives us the opportunity to gain a richer, deeper understanding of who we really are. Living authentic lives, being true to self and others is surely a gift of well being in itself.

If you would like to take this journey into personality just send me an email or text to 0275426720 and we will sort out a good time!

Change is possible!

Love who you are!  NZ Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern at the Ponsonby Pride Parade

Last evening , cheering from the sidelines, we took part in a wonderful, colourful celebration down Ponsonby Rd. An exhilarating pageant honouring diversity and unconditional love, AKA the Ponsonby Pride Parade.

The message was one of love, of acceptance, of diversity. The energy and joy was palpable! There in the midst of it, not on a float or a pedestal, but down with the people, was our very own pregnant female Prime Minister, Jacinda Ardern.

Who’d have thought this would ever be possible?

Firstly such a huge turnout for the parade supported by organisations, educational institutes, business leaders, opposing political parties and thousands of citizens and secondly that we in NZ have an awesome young pregnant, (did I mention that she is pregnant?) female Prime Minister.

Change is possible! Changes are made step by step, building on experience and learning from what has gone before.

If you want positive change in your life then look at what isn’t working. Recognise the repeating non helpful patterns and put in place new ones!

You may start in disbelief, it may seem impossible but looking at the magic of the Ponsonby Pride Parade last night there is no doubt that change can happen both on a global and personal level.

Reach out if you would like some help to make some positive changes!


All you need to do today is show up!

I set off to work early this morning to set up a room for 12 trainees, I was early, prepared and rearing to go. As the clock neared start time and no one had appeared I realised something had gone askew.

Minutes later the Team Leader arrived and due to a mis communication she had not confirmed the training with her new team. She was stressed, upset and had been roasted verbally by a senior.

Her day had not gone well, she had argued with the parking meter for a time before realising it was not working. She hadn’t prepared her team and was last minute trying to contact them. My heart went out to her. Some days this just happens, we stuff up.

All credit to her, she came in stressed and angry blaming everyone else but the cool air conditioning obviously did the trick (we are bathing in 90% humidity right now) she calmed right down. We looked at the situation taking all emotion aside, we came up with a solution and offered a new time for all concerned. I thanked her for showing up.

She left with a smile and thanks, it could have gone the other way very easily. We all have days that start the wrong way, giving in to blame and anger does not help. Taking responsibility for where we are at is half the battle.

All that is required is that we own up and show up 🙂

What is Recovery?

Recovery is the process we go through as we make conscious decisions to leave behind behaviours and habits that are not healthy for us.

Usually these behaviours are hurting us or those around us in some way. They could be over eating; over working, over shopping, over exercising, over drinking, over social media checking, smoking, drug taking, the list goes on. Once we make a decision that we want to stop the behaviour we begin the process of recovery.

Recovery is also reclaiming parts of ourselves that have been lost  or indeed stolen along the way.

The process we go through is a discovery of self, re connecting with parts of us that we have tried to keep quiet and giving ourselves the opportunity to grow and live with authenticity and intention. Its super helpful to have support or find a tribe to hang with when you embark on such a journey.

I have tried (and failed) to give up a ton of things in my life but the one thing that has made the most significant difference was giving up the booze. There is just not one thing I regret about this decision. I feel better both physically and mentally. I believe that whatever state we are in we are all spiritual beings. I have also learnt it is far easier to feel conscious and present when you aren’t numbing and dumbing your mind and body with alcohol.

The Rehabit  Coach project  is providing a supportive future focussed approach to help you with your decision to move forward in life leaving unhelpful habits behind.

Reach out if this sounds like you! 🙂


Photo by Noah Silliman on Unsplash

Finding freedom with the whales

Dreams of Sea Creatures

For many years I dreamt of huge sea creatures in the ocean. Initially in these dreams I would feel fear then would realise that there was no need to be frightened. I loved these dreams which I later learned are a link to the things unknown, in my unconscious that I had yet to explore.

A few weeks ago I had a close up encounter in real life with  humpback whales. I experienced these same familiar feelings. The scene was one that filled me with terror, sitting in a small rubber dinghy bobbing about on the deep blue ocean in search of real life huge sea creatures.

The Whale

As I followed the guide and the others over the side into the water, I  realised there was nothing to fear from these beautiful, gentle creatures. We floated on the surface, watching in amazement, while our whale sang his beautiful song and then rose gracefully to the surface to take breath before diving down again. Wonder and majesty overcame the fear and I was left with a deep sense of connection to the mystery and beauty of life.

Quitting Drinking

My decision to not drink alcohol was a bit like this. I was terrified as I didn’t know how I would actually manage myself in the world without my safe little prop. I knew on the surface it was just a liquid in a glass, but one that I had become reliant on to give me confidence; a sense of relaxation, a rest from a busy mind and just a little pick me up treat that I felt I deserved. I could so easily forget that the flip side of this liquid would cause me to feel slow and sluggish, eat more than my body needed, not sleep well and wake up feeling vaguely seedy even after only one or two glasses. In other words it was toxic to my system. I knew things had to change.

Sober Life

I swam into this new world of sobriety and faced situation after situation completely raw and real. It was both challenging and confronting and in time deeply rewarding. I now have a freedom I didn’t have before, I no longer need alcohol. Like floating on the ocean I have a newfound sense of peace, connection and wonder with the world.

Sober Coaching

If you have made the decision to remove alcohol from your life expect to face challenges. These challenges can soon become opportunities. A sober coach will  help you identify your unique strengths to find these opportunities. If you have been thinking about removing alcohol from your life for a time or for longer, then know that the journey is one that is worth taking.

Lets talk more…